Avanti networking member, life coach Katrina Love is this month’s online expert and here, Katrina explains why the new year is the perfect time to do a life check.
It’s time do do a LIFECHECK . Let’s stop and look at what needs to be changed. This is your life- TAKE the time to do it!
What do you want from 2019?
You will need to write this down so that you don’t forget and it can be a point of reference.
Let’s take the time to think about what went wrong last year. I would like you to note down what actually didn’t go well for you. eg; a relationship ending, putting on weight etc
So what didn’t things work and why?
What could have gone better?
Now let’s look at the opposite of this- what actually went right?
What did you achieve? eg improving relationships, great holiday etc So think why did you succeed, what worked and why?
Now out of 10- 10 being the highest score, rate your self on these;
Health and body Emotional and personal growth Intimate
Relationships Social and fun Family and friends Work and career
Finances Acts of kindness/ giving
What are the marks you honestly given yourself and what would you like to achieve this year. Also how are you going to go about achieving it? As well as how will you feel if you don’t?
Let’s start with focusing on just one change- choose which one will make the biggest difference to you.
Good mental health (emotional and personal growth)is more important than anything else and will perhaps make the biggest difference to you. Once you have achieved this it will affect every other part of your life.
Let’s look at you.
Who are you? Who would you like to be?
What makes you happy?
What are you doing for yourself?
What do you do to recharge yourself?
What do you need?
Are you doing any of the things you’ve listed?
If not start right now.
It will often come down to self love, self care and self compassion.
Treat yourself the way you would like others to treat you- because your behaviour towards yourself is the bench mark to how others will treat you for sure.
To establish a new behavioural pattern it is easier to continue a good new habit if we are rewarded in some way for it… As I am suggesting we start with self care this should be rewarding enough in itself but also on a practical level mark in your diary or on notes that you have done it. Try and build up a streak of 10 days and then reward yourself- perhaps put money aside towards a holiday, or trainers, or a day out.
2019 is all about you and your happiness and your happiness will have a ripple effect on all those that you come into contact with in turn. Happy New You.